This is very timely (for me). I've just been away with three other friends (a quartet? A quad? Certainly not a polycule - I'm resisting that level of wokeness ;)) When I got home from my trip I had lunch with one other friend and it was such a different experience. In those two hours over some shared fish tacos I felt more 'me', more deeply engaged with another human, more intellectually challenged, more useful, funnier, smarter and more centred than I did when living with my other friends for four days. Now don't get me wrong - those friends are also really smart, funny, political, caring etc but it had me thinking that maybe I just don't do groups well and am much better in one-on-ones - or, as I shall now refer to them, 'dyads'. I've long known this about myself but your thoughts here have helped me to understand a little of why that might be. I think I would choose intimacy over a fancy trip away any day of the week. Thanks for your words.
Hi Jayne. I know how you feel. I’m beginning to wonder whether being a one-on-one person means you are not afraid of the vulnerabilities required for intimacy. That would mean the opposite would apply to people who prefer groups ... Glad you liked the post :)
This is very timely (for me). I've just been away with three other friends (a quartet? A quad? Certainly not a polycule - I'm resisting that level of wokeness ;)) When I got home from my trip I had lunch with one other friend and it was such a different experience. In those two hours over some shared fish tacos I felt more 'me', more deeply engaged with another human, more intellectually challenged, more useful, funnier, smarter and more centred than I did when living with my other friends for four days. Now don't get me wrong - those friends are also really smart, funny, political, caring etc but it had me thinking that maybe I just don't do groups well and am much better in one-on-ones - or, as I shall now refer to them, 'dyads'. I've long known this about myself but your thoughts here have helped me to understand a little of why that might be. I think I would choose intimacy over a fancy trip away any day of the week. Thanks for your words.
Hi Jayne. I know how you feel. I’m beginning to wonder whether being a one-on-one person means you are not afraid of the vulnerabilities required for intimacy. That would mean the opposite would apply to people who prefer groups ... Glad you liked the post :)